I would like to tell you a Thanksgiving story...
Last week, I spent part of an afternoon with Mary and Jim Jandick. We were planning for their mother's funeral, which took place on Friday. It was during the course of our conversation that I met Dolores Jandick for the first time. Dolores is their mother, someone already known to some of you. The Jandicks, now living in suburbs further west of here, grew up on Larch. Jim and Mary went to school at Mary Queen of Heaven. Their mother remained living in the parish until just a few years ago, when she moved in with Mary.
The Jandicks say that people who knew them when they were growing up sometimes now ask what it was like to grow up in a dysfunctional home. Their mother battled mental illness every day of her life. She was schizophrenic and on and off her medicine. Her behavior and moods were erratic. Things were very hard at home because they never had enough money. Their lives were very different from other families in Elmhurst who were pretty well off and who had a "normal" family life.
So, what was it like to grow up in a "dysfunctional" home? Jim and Mary say that in spite of the mental illness that plagued her, their mother knew that taking care of her children was the most important thing in her life. They that she always showed them unconditional love. They say that she was always a person of faith and hope. They say that their mother was like the man in the movie, "A Beautiful Mind," who heard voices that weren't really there. Even so, she washed the floors at Visitation parish and cleaned the homes of wealthier people in Elmhurst so that she could get the money she needed to get braces for her children. Her Catholic faith was very important to her and she loved to receive Holy Communion, which was brought to her at home by Sister Honorata.
Jim and Mary told me how they loved their mother. They also talked about how important their parish family was to them. They recounted names of other parishioners I now know, who helped their family when they were growing up. They talked about how this parish, a parish that didn't have much money itself, helped their family by bringing food to them when they didn't have any. They are very grateful for the people of Mary Queen of Heaven.
In fact, Mary and Jim personify gratitude. They took care of their mother until she died because they couldn't imagine not caring for this woman who loved them so much. Jim told me that they grew up learning that every day is a gift, a privilege, and they do not take a day for granted. They both say that growing up not having money taught them that there are more important things in life.
It was a very moving experience for me to come to know Dolores Jandick through my meeting with two of her adult children. It was so easy to see how this woman, tortured by mental illness, nevertheless fulfilled her Christian vocation to be a person of love. This woman who was mother in a home called "dysfunctional," accomplished the greatest Christian work in life. She loved. Deeply. In spite of all the hardships this family endured, Dolores loved her children into life. Because she did, the world will be a better place. All you need to do to understand this is to sit and talk with Mary and Jim for a little while. Mary and Jim are people who will change the world because they learned from their mother what it means to have unconditional love for others.
This Thanksgiving, let us remember in our prayers the Jandicks and several other families who mourn the loss of family members who died in the last week. Let us also learn from the example of Jim and Mary to be grateful for the really important things in life. And let us thank God for Dolores Jandick and the example her life gives us all to be people of faith, hope, and love. Let us pray that we may be like her.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. I pray in gratitude for this parish and its people.
Pastoral Life Coordinator
A Vocation View 'As I keep the Lord ever in my sight...my heart rejoices, my soul is glad... You will show me the path of life, the fullness of joy in Your presence'. Let our Vocation be, to be one with God - forever. Catholic Charities Needs Donors! Catholic Charities has a record number of families registered for their "adopt a family" Christmas program this year. Over 800 families and nearly 4000 individuals have applied for Christmas gifts and food certificates. Catholic Charities is looking for more donor families to "adopt" the remaining small client families. Please call 630- 496-8008 x13 if you can help provide Christmas for these families. Gifts will need to be purchased, wrapped and returned to the Lombard office by Friday, Dec. 1. If you prefer, monetary donations for food and gift certificates for these families and their children may be mailed to Catholic Charities, Holiday Outreach Program, 26 W. St. Charles Road, Lombard, IL 60148. Catholic Charities relies on the continued generosity of the community to help them serve every needy family during the holidays. With your support, this is possible! Cenacle Retreat House, Warrenville "The Close and Holy Darkness: Christmas, Creativity and the Human Condition", a quiet Advent Retreat, will be presented by Fr. Tom Aldworth, OFM on December 1-3. Fr. Tom will lead participants to open their hearts to God while answering the question, "What does it mean in your life today that God became one of us in Jesus?" Cost is $195 for a single room only. For info or to register for any of the above programs, please call the Cenacle at 630-393-1231. St. Beatrice School Craft Show St. Beatrice School at 4141 N. Atlantic (Irving Park Road near 25th St.) in Schiller Park is hosting its 24th Annual Country Christmas Craft Show on Friday, December 8, and Saturday, December 9. They are currently accepting crafter applications for what promises to be an excellent show. For more info. and applications call the school at 847-678- 1752 or email email@example.com All Kids All Kids is an effort by the Illinois Department of Healthcare and Family Services to ensure that all children, ages 18 or younger, have access to health care. All Kids pays for doctor and hospital visits, dental and vision care, prescription drugs, medical equipment, mental health services, etc. Children who are age 18 or younger who live with their families in Illinois and who need health insurance are eligible. For more information about this program and how it can benefit the children of your parish, please contact Ann Ridge at 312-793-3152 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Looking for 1957 Graduates 50th Class Reunion St. Frances of Rome, Cicero, graduating class of '57 will celebrate its 50th anniversary in 2007. If you or someone you know is a '57 graduate, please call Judy at 708-344-6013 or Rosanne at 708-498-4002. Auction Dinner Dance Update All the items that were bid on at the Auction/Dinner Dance have not yet been picked-up and paid for and we will have to delay the gross amount of the Auction Proceeds until the next bulletin. However, at that time we will be able to give you both the Gross Amount taken in and the Net Profit after expenses. Thank you for your patience! Senior Citizen Christmas Party Saturday, December 2 The CCW cordially invites all Senior Citizens to the Annual Christmas party in Barrett Hall on Saturday, December 2, immediately following 5:00 p.m. Mass. Reservation forms are in this week's bulletin. Please return these reservation forms as soon as possible to the basket in the vestibule of church or to the rectory. A Buffet Supper will be served and entertainment will be provided by our Wings to Heaven Youth Group. Each year this party is hosted by CCW with the help of our Religious Education Moms and other ladies of the parish who generously donate food and their time to let our seniors know how very special they are to our parish. If you are in need of a ride or special assistance to attend the Mass and Party, please call Karen Vicary at 279-4108, Mary White at 833-9809 or Sheila Reiter at 833-6657. SVdP Thanksgiving Collection Every year our Thanksgiving Day Collection is given to the St. Vincent dePaul Society to aid them in helping people in our parish and the surrounding area who are in need of assistance with food, electric, gas and water bills, rental assistance, car repairs, medicine and medical bills. This is an important work of outreach and charity that Mary Queen's SVdP Society provides. We have been able to assist many needy people within our parish and some who have been turned away at other places. It is important for all to know that not only does our care help our own parishioners but also reaches beyond our borders. The call for help has been great this past year and we expect it to keep increasing, especially with the energy situation. To those of you who continue to support SVdP Society of MQH parish by using the monthly envelope, we owe you a debt of gratitude Your generosity continues to help us help others! We know everyone is not able to attend Thanksgiving Day Mass, so we ask that you please consider dropping your Thanksgiving Day envelope in the Sunday collection basket or sending it to the rectory. Your generosity is greatly appreciated. Prayer Requests To pray for our sick is an important privilege of our parish family. We hope that you will pray for these persons every day. Natalie Baker Pam Bondfide Heather Brennan Kathleen Bryers Doresa Brugler Pat Caffarelli Rose Caffarelli Kathy Calzante Cosmore Ciancio Dennis Ciancio Paul Cirone Margaret Conroy Cynthia Catalano Family Ida Corriedo Trudi Dolato Baby Dobrowolski Virginia Feret Cecilia Garstki Modesta Goggins Mary Hagerty Anna Heffel Jen Huwalt Tom Huwalt Michelle Humann Maureen James Kathy Johnston Irene Kmieciak Bernadette Kohn Anne Kostas Tim Kowalski Baby Emma Lynde Marie Mangano Robert Manion Dennis McCabe Raymond Mitchell Fred Moss Geri Pstrzoch Baby Faith Reid Robert Restivo Joaquina Scroppo Jess Smith Mary Spierowski Rachael Thompson Rest In Peace Father Ivan Dobnikar, OSB Dolores Jandick Father Edward Grotovsky Donald Pokrak Peter P. DiCianni Mildred Wilk If you or a family member would like to be included in our prayers, please call the rectory at 279-5700. Also, please let us know when a name should be removed. Diocesan News RCIA will be hopping by the end of this month! On Nov. 25 at the 5:00 Mass we will have the Rite of Sending to the Bishop for our candidates, Beth Wrobel and Jerry Cote. The next day, along with their families, sponsors and RCIA team members, they will travel to the Cathedral in Joliet to be formally presented to Bishop Sartain. It is an honor and pleasure to announce that Jack Kowalski will complete his Sacraments of Initiation by receiving Confirmation and Eucharist on Sunday, November 26, at the 10:30 Mass. There will be a reception for him following the Mass in the Social Hall. Please come by for fellowship and to meet and congratulate Jack! "A Marmion Family Christmas" Sixteenth Annual Craft Show Saturday, November 25, 9 a.m.-4 p.m. and Sunday, November 26, 10:30 a.m.-3 p.m. Marmion Academy 1000 Butterfield Road, Aurora $3.00 for adults (12 years or older) Over 156 of Chicagoland's finest crafters. Food service available all day, both days. Bake sale both days. Complimentary babysitting. No strollers allowed in show area). "Toys for Tots" Drop Off (new and unwrapped). Community News Fellowship Sunday Today, November 19 Please join us for fellowship after the 10:30 a.m. Mass today, Sunday, November 19 in Barrett Hall. Stop in after Mass for some pastries and a cup of coffee or juice and the opportunity to talk with friends and fellow parishioners and their families. Fellowship is being sponsored by our Eucharistic Ministers. Advent Reconciliation Service Mary Queen of Heaven will hold its Advent Parish Reconciliation Service on Tuesday, December 5, at 7:30 p.m. All families of the parish are encouraged to attend this celebration. We will have a communal prayer service and there will be multiple priests here from different parishes to hear individual confessions. Please join your parish family to prepare for the coming of Christ more fully into our hears this Advent Season. Please continue to be very cautious in the parking lot on Wednesday afternoons and evenings. Religious Education News Reminder to all RE families: There will be no class on Wednesday, November 22, due to the Thanksgiving holiday. Please mark your calendars. Advent Service Projects: This year we will again be collecting new unwrapped toys for Marillac House on Chicago's West Side...not so very far from Elmhurst. Sister Antoinette called us last week to tell us that they are in great need. There will be a "toy box" in the hall of school for donations on Wednesday, November 29, December 6, and 13 during class times. Toys for all ages are welcome...no violent toys please. Please be generous. Our children will also have the opportunity to add global dimension to their acts of service. They will go to the "polls" to vote for the animal of their choice to be sent to a 3rd world country. The RE children are asked to come to class with a donation of 50 cents that will be donated to Heifer International. They can then "vote" for a pig, a sheep, or a goat to be sent to a small village, which will drastically improve the quality of life of its residents. Our "polls" will be open on the first two Wednesdays of December. Over the years, our children have really enjoyed this project. On behalf of the entire religious education staff, we wish you all a Blessed Thanksgiving. For more info on any of the above, please call Mary Ann Woods at the REO, 832-8962. Community News Holy & Amazing: Celebrating Franciscan Women Saints With Sr. Gabriele Uhlein, OSF Sunday, November 26, (St. Elizabeth of Hungary) 2:30- 4:00 P.M. Wheaton Franciscan Campus, Maura Hall 26W171 Roosevelt Road, Wheaton Be prepared to meet Franciscan women saints that were bold, determined and wise. Come and share the lives of these saints. Inspired by their example, these intriguing Sunday afternoon conversations will be an opportunity to look with fresh eyes at how God is still with us. Using multiple images and contemporary research, we will consider what it means to belong, to heal, and to contemplate. Each of thee amazing women can give us wonderful clues that reaffirm the spiritual dimension of our own everyday lives. Note: This session is one in a series (Sundays: November 26, December 17, January 28, February 18, March 18 and April 15). Each session is a complete section. Come for one or all and discover what we can learn about ourselves from these Franciscan women. 50th Anniversary Cookbook Sale Are you in need of a hostess gift for Thanksgiving Day or thinking about what to give someone for Christmas? We have the perfect gift, our 50th Anniversary Cookbook. The Cookbooks contain recipes from current parishioners and previous members of our parish and make especially great gifts for family members and friends who love to bake. Cookbooks will be available for purchase after all the Masses this weekend and the weekend of December 9th & 10th. The donation for each Cookbook is $15. Should you wish to purchase additional cookbooks during the week, please call Mary Nanak (530-4502) or Ellen Walker (279-4021). Advent Wreaths And Replacement Candles The Liturgy Committee will be having Advent Wreath sets and replacement candles available for purchase at all the Masses during the weekends of November 25-26 and December 2-3. The donation for the Wreath Sets (includes a wreath, 4 candles and an Advent Prayer) is $10.00. The donation for a set of replacement candles for wreaths you already have is $3.00. Volunteers for Holiday Outreach. Can you help pack food or make a delivery? Elmhurst families in need are referred to United Community Concerns Association (UCCA) through School District 205 and our Elmhurst churches. These families receive food and food certificates from UCCA at the holidays. We will sort and pack Christmas food boxes for over 160 families from Monday, December 4 through Friday, December 14 from 9:00 a.m. until 3:00 p.m. at the City of Elmhurst Public Works Facility at 985 S. Riverside Drive. Please park and enter at the front (West) entrance and check in at the desk. Drivers (with muscle power) are needed between 8:00 a.m. and 9:00 a.m. on Saturday, December 14, at the City of Elmhurst Public Works Facility to deliver food boxes to our local families. Call to volunteer or if you have any questions: Patty Burnette 834-8471 Susie Sands 941-8116 If you would like to make a donation, please make your checks payable to: United Community Concerns Association 125 W. Church, Elmhurst, IL 60126 Free Thanksgiving Dinner Sponsored by The Elmhurst Rotary Club November 23 from Noon to 1:30 p.m. At Diplomat West Banquet Hall 681 W. North Ave , Elmhurst For more information and tickets, contact: Joe Weigel at 630-782-1234 or Ed Lucking at 630-833-8850. Liturgy News We are invited. At the Table of the Lord, we are invited to bring and offer our gifts in thanksgiving. We stand before the Lord in humility and gratefulness. Our actions should reflect our intentions. As of the weekend December 2nd & 3rd, the first week of Advent, the start of the new liturgical new year, we will be standing as we are invited to offer our gifts to God. This means a change in our prayer behavior. We will now stand immediately after the gifts are brought forward and the table is prepared, when the priest invites us to pray together with him. Sanding at this time is the preferred posture as stated by the General Instruction of the Roman Missal paragraph #43. The Celebrant is asking us to join with him in our offering and to stand with him before the Lord as we present our gifts to Him. Thank you for helping our liturgies to be prayerful celebrations of our Faith. Market Day Orders for December are due Monday, December 11, at noon. Turn in your order form in the box in the back of church or at the rectory. Pickup on Saturday, December 16, from 9:30 - 10:30 a.m. in the Social Hall. If you have questions or would like to place an order, please call Maria at 279-2238 or Karen at 279- 4108.
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