Mary's Corner

Mary Queen of Heaven Catholic Church
426 N. West Avenue
Elmhurst, Illinois 60126-2171
Parish Office: 630/279-5700
Fax: 630/279-4667


Last week, I mentioned the work of the parish Liturgy Committee in considering our theme for Advent this year. In generating a long list of words that represented what Advent means for us, the word "pregnant" was one on my list. I think of Mary's pregnancy as she awaited giving birth to her Son. I even think about the pregnancy of God, in the sense that there is this fullness of life that God desires to give to the world. I also think about God being pregnant with all of the hope that Christmas brings to us in its fullest meaning.

Perhaps it was this recent thought of pregnancy in connection with Advent that made me react so strongly to something I read this week. It was a poignant news story about a couple whose children were on the brink of death due to an accidental overdose of medication at a hospital. You may be familiar with the story. Like me, you may have found yourself including this family in your prayers. This couple had just rejoiced at the birth of their children following multiple miscarriages. Immediately afterwards, they faced the possible death of their babies, unbearable heartbreak. I have since read elsewhere that the children now seem to be doing o.k. Thanks be to God for this. The story of this family, however, brought to mind a number of things that touch on Catholic sensibility.

In every story I saw about this family, I read that due to the fertility problems experienced by the couple, these children, belonging biologically to their parents, were carried by a "gestational carrier" to birth. I was floored by the impersonal, even inhuman character of the words used to describe the woman who brought these two children into the world. Moving beyond the near-tragic story of this particular family, I would like to offer some thoughts about this distinctive phrase that holds potential for working its way into our common language.

"Gestational carrier" is another way of describing a surrogate mother, yet it is distinctively different, since any idea of motherhood is removed. The intentional use of this phrase obviously reflects the desire of people not to acknowledge the role of the woman serving as surrogate in any way, except as a vehicle of utility.

In an era of ever-evolving technology, the idea of surrogate mothers is not brand new. It has been around long enough to become acceptable on popular sit-coms. But surrogate motherhood is not just fodder for television. It has become a real consideration for couples dealing with infertility. My heart goes out to married couples who so deeply desire children and yet are unable, for whatever reason, to have them. This is something that my own family has experienced. I used to think that one prayer that God never answered for me was that my sister and her husband would be able to have children. It was not until the wedding day of my son that I realized the answer to my prayer, as Sean walked down the aisle escorted by me on one side of him and my sister on the other. The life of my children would never have been the same if it was not for the involvement, support, and love of my sister and her husband.

I can remember thinking 20-some years ago when praying for my sister and her husband how much I wanted to help them. While I never would have done it, the idea of serving as a surrogate even crossed my mind. I loved them so much and more than this, I knew how much they loved each other. I know that I am not alone in having this thought come to mind; in my pastoral ministry I have been approached by others considering this option now provided by modern technology. However, and as I have told others, even a desire motivated by great love does not justify using every option provided by modern reproductive technology. Perhaps, in one sense, the phrase "gestational carrier" is very honest, for it shows the complete breakdown of the meaning of human love and relationship.

In complete contrast, we prepare during the season of Advent for the complete opposite - the fulfillment of love in a most personal way. Mary the mother of Jesus was not a "gestational carrier." She was someone who so completely accepted God into her life that the fullness of God's love was brought into the world. Hers was not an impersonal pregnancy but was one borne out of the greatest of relationships. God was with Mary and God is with us, the literal meaning of the name Emmanuel, the One for whom we now await.

While Mary's distinctive role is unrepeatable in history, each one of us holds within ourselves the potential for bringing new life into the world. The more we become open to the love of God, the more we can share with God the ongoing work of creation. During these weeks of Advent, let us remember that like Mary, we have the capacity to bring the love of God to others, love that brings hope, love that brings healing, love that is strong enough to overcome every kind of suffering and even death itself, love that brings new life. God so loves the world that he became one like us. Let us so love God that we become able to give birth to that love in the world.

Dr. Mary
Dr. Mary Foley, Pastoral Life Coordinator

Dec 9th 

For prisoners, away from their families and friends,
and especially for those who wait on death row:
that our prayers might bring them peace;
We pray to the Lord:

Christmas Mass Schedule:

Children's Mass with Nativity Pageant
Monday, December 24 at 4:00 p.m.
(Please note the NEW TIME this year)

Christmas Eve, Monday December 24
Prelude Concert at 10:00 p.m.
"Midnight Mass" at 11:00 p.m.

Christmas Day, Tuesday December 25
8:30 a.m. Mass
10:30 a.m. Mass


Catholic Charities, Diocese of Joliet, hopes to make Christmas 
a little brighter for low income families in DuPage County.  
This year, through the agency's Holiday Outreach Program, 
hundreds of individuals have already been "adopted" by donors 
and parishes.

Although most families were "adopted" during the early fall 
months, Catholic Charities is still in great need of monetary 
donations to purchase gift cards for food and clothing for 
families who will ask for our help before and after the 
Christmas holidays.  

Your donation to purchase food and gift cards for these 
families and their children may be mailed to Catholic 
Charities' Holiday Outreach Program, 
26 W. St. Charles Road,  Lombard, IL 60148.  If you prefer, you 
may donate small denomination ($50.00 or less) gift cards for 
area grocery stores and department stores (Target, Wal-Mart, 
Kmart, and Kohl's) 

Catholic Charities relies on the continued generosity of the 
community to help them serve every needy family.  Thank you for 
all that you do!

Market Day
	Orders for December are due Monday, December 10, at noon.  
Turn in your order form in the box in the back of church or at 
the rectory.  Pickup on Saturday, December 15, from 9:30 - 10:30 
a.m. in the Social Ha12/30ll.  
	If you have questions or would like to place an order, 
please call Karen at 279-4108 or Beth at 833-5469 or email her at .

	Please return your presents placing them by the Giving Tree 
by December 16th.  Please wrap the present/s placing the ornament 
on the top of the present so that we can see the coding telling 
us which family the present belongs to or if it is going to the 
Nursing Home.  .  Once again we want to thank all who participate 
for their generosity and kindness in helping someone less 
fortunate to have a joyous Christmas.

	Rev. Tom Borkowski will present "Giving Birth to 2008", a New 
Year's Eve evening of prayer with the overnight option.  Come join 
Fr. Tom for the Cenacle's beautiful Annual New Year's celebration.  
The evening will give retreatants the opportunity to reflect upon 
God's presence during the past twelve months and to consider what 
new and unexpected surprises God may have in mind as they approach 
the New Year.  The evening includes presentations by Fr. Tom, group 
conversation, time for personal prayer, celebration of the Eucharist 
and refreshments.  The cost is $85 for the overnight option, which 
includes program, refreshments, accommodations and Continental 
breakfast.  The cost is $45 for the evening only, which includes the 
program and refreshments.  A $15 deposit will confirm your 
For further information or to register for this program, please call 
630-393-1231 or email

Please see our website at and contact 
the school office for more information and registration.              
(630) 833-9500
Preschool classes have begun.  We still have some openings in our 
Tuesday/Thursday class.  
Come join us!
	         Preschool tours scheduled upon request.
The Preschool will begin Registration for the 2008-2009 school 
year beginning in January.  We will be offering Open House for 
those interested in visiting our classroom.  
Saturday   January 12, 2008   9:00am-11:00am
Sunday   January 13, 2008  9:30am-12:30pm
After the 8:30am and 10:30am Masses
Tuesday  January 29, 2008      6:30pm-8:00pm


Elmhurst Memorial Hospital sponsors two (2) adult grief support 
groups. One group meets in the evening and the other group meets 
during the day time. The evening group meets at the hospital (200 
Berteau) on the 1st and 3rd Mondays of the month from 6:30-8:00 
p.m. in the Bates Conference Room. The other group meets at 
Elmhurst Memorial Center for Health (1200 S. York Rd) in 
Conference Room E. on the 2nd and 4th Wednesdays of the month from 
9:30-11:00 a.m. For more information call 630-833-1400 Ex. 47058 
or 630-833-8200 Ex. 73541

During this season of Advent, what better time then now to come and 
adore the King of kings. 
Go back in time over 2000 years ago and pay homage and adoration to 
Baby Jesus.
Let your heart, mind, and soul feel and celebrate the true meaning 
of Christmas. 
Join your friends in Christ at the next special Holy Hour that will 
be filled with prayer, adoration, and Benediction. There will be 
special Christmas music before, during, and after the Holy Hour.
You owe this special Christmas present to yourself!!!!
WHERE: Visitation Church
779 S. York Road
Elmhurst, IL
WHEN: Saturday, December 15th , 2007
7:00 P.M.


L.O.S.S. Support Group

(Loving Outreach to Survivors of Suicide)
	Through the collaboration of Catholic Charities (the 
Archdiocese of Chicago and the Diocese of Joliet), support groups 
are in place for anyone who has lost a relative or friend to 
suicide.  A trained facilitator and a mental health professional 
assist these groups.  The groups meet from 7:00 to 9:00 P.M. on 
either the third Wednesday or the ** fourth Tuesday of the month.  
The next meeting dates are as follows:
December 19 - St. Paul the Apostle Activity Center,
130 Woodlawn in Joliet
**December18 - St. Daniel the Prophet Parish Center, 
101 West Loop Drive in Wheaton.
	During the month of December, all groups will participate 
in a candlelight service of remembrance.  Members may bring a 
photo of their loved ones who have died. 
**Please note that this group will be meeting one week earlier 
for the month of December. For more information, call toll-free 
800-240-7011.  Visit us at

	As part of our celebration of the Advent Season, St. Margaret 
Mary Parish will be holding a two-part mini-series called, Stand 
Against Violence. This series will focus on two forms of violence 
that plague our communities; domestic violence and gun violence.
PART II:  Preventing Gun Violence: A Personal Story of Redemption
Tuesday, December 11, 7:30 pm, 
COR Center, St. Margaret Mary Parish, 1450 Green Trails Dr., Naperville 
Presenters:  Stephen Young's teenage son was gunned down in 1996 by 
a gang member in Chicago using an illegally trafficked handgun. 
Stephen's family journey from the murder of their son to forgiveness 
for his killer is a powerful story of redemption. Stephen has been 
an active participant in the public debate over gun control, has 
written many op-eds for Chicago newspapers. His family's experience 
was documented by Chicago Public Television WTTW, in "A Justice That 

Dear Friend of Classical Music and Supporter of PADS, 
	First United Methodist Church of Oak Park and the MacDowell 
Artists  Association will present their 7th Annual Sing-Along 
Messiah today,  Sunday, December 9, 2007 at 3:30 p.m. This 
popular holiday event will feature four soloists, the Chicago 
Chamber Orchestra, a Skinner organ, 
and a harpsichord. The audience sings along as the Chorus. A 
reception follows the concert. 
	A free-will offering will be received to support the Public 
Action to Deliver Shelter (PADS) program which provides food, 
shelter, and social services for the local community through a 
network of community volunteers and agencies. Additional 
information on the services that PADS provides can be located on 
their website 
	First United Methodist Church of Oak Park is located at 324 
North Oak Park Avenue, Oak Park, IL 60302. Questions may be 
directed to me at or (708) 383-4983. 
Additional information and directions can be located on the 
church website at [http:///]. The church is 
handicap-accessible and provides hearing assistance services. 
	Please invite all those who love classical music. We hope 
to see you there! 
Betty Johnson 
Sing-Along Messiah Coordinator

	Looking for money to pay off those "Christmas Gift" Bills.  
Why not take a chance on our Christmas Raffle.  YOU COULD BE A 
LUCKY WINNER!  All Raffle proceeds will benefit our Parish.  
	Only 250 tickets will be sold and the winners need not be 
present.  The odds of winning a Raffle Prize are great!  The 
Ticket Donation is $100.  Each ticket contains 10 slots so that 
the cost of the ticket can be divided with as many as 10 people 
if you choose.
1st   Prize             $10,000
2nd Prize                $2,000
3rd Prize                 $1,000
	The Drawing will take place on December 16th in Barrett Hall 
immediately following the 10:30 a.m. Mass.  Refreshments will be 
served.  Please consider helping us make this event a success so 
that we can continue to grow as a welcoming parish that provides 
ministries involving all walks of life and continued spiritual 
growth to our families and their children.  Invite your family, 
friends and co-workers to participate in the Raffle.
	Tickets are available in the vestibule of church or can be 
obtained by contacting the Parish Office or one of the following 
committee members:  Sheila Reiter (833-6657), Derrick StaRosa 
(291-9115) Phyllis Twardowski (279-6239) or Mary White (833-9809) 

	The Mary Queen of Heaven Adult Education and Spirituality 
Commission continues the Year of Women in the Bible and the 
Church with our next Scripture Study, Women in the Old Testament.  
The study will begin the week of January 7, 2008 and continue for 
9 weeks through the week of March 10, 2008.  The cost once again 
will be $12.00 and if you need assistance please speak to Dr. 
Mary Foley.
	Only in recent years has attention been given to stories of 
biblical women.  There are stories of queens and slaves, 
assassins and victims of rape, mothers and wives, sisters and in-
laws.  Our study will tell the stories of only some of the women 
in the Old Testament.  It is the hope of the author of the study 
to encourage readers to search for more biblical women and also 
to find the story of faith reflected in the stories of their own 
	Sign-up will take place on two week-ends: December 8-9 and 
December 15-16.  If you have any further questions or would like 
to inquire about facilitating a group study please contact Lynn 
Suwanski 630-530-2523 or Alex and Marie Grozik 630-530-0503.  


Attention 8th grade Confirmation Candidates & families: There will 
be a meeting for all our 8th Grade Confirmation Candidates, 
Parents, & Sponsors on Wednesday, December 12th from 7-8:15PM in 
Church.  All are expected to attend. Please note the 5:15 Grade 8 
session will not meet at their normal time on December 12th.

Advent Service Projects: 
This is the last week for our RE Advent Projects. We are again 
collecting new unwrapped toys for Marillac House on Chicago's 
West Side. There is a "toy box" in the hall of school for 
donations.  Toys for all ages are violent toys please. 
Please be generous. Wednesday, December 12th is the last day for 
toys to be donated.

Our children also have the opportunity to add a global dimension 
to their acts of service. They have been going to the "polls" to 
vote for the animal of their choice to be sent to a 3rd world 
country. The RE children are asked to come to class with a 
donation of 50 cents that will be donated to Heifer 
International.  They can then  "vote" for a pig, a sheep, or a 
goat to be sent to a small village, which will drastically 
improve the quality of life of it's residents. Our "polls" will 
close this Wednesday after class. 

Mark your Calendars:
There is no RE class on Wednesday, December 19th and 26th and 
January 2nd. 
Class will resume on Wednesday, January 9th

For more info on any of the above, please call Mary Ann Woods at 
the REO, 832-8962.

Prayer  Requests
To pray for our sick is an important privilege of our parish 
family.  We hope that you will pray for these persons every day.

	Aurora Arce				Natalie Baker
	Katherine Brennan			Pam Bondfide
	Pat Caffarelli				Rose Caffarelli
	Kathy Calzante				Cosmore Ciancio
	Dennis Ciancio				Lou Ciancio
	George Cibula				Paul Cirone
	Ida Corriedo				Cynthia Catalano Family
	Rosemary Davis				Deacon Bob Delbeke
	Trudi Dolato				Baby Dobrowolski
	Virginia Feret				Kathy Filipiak
	Cecilia Garstki				Mary Goggins			
	Mary Hagerty				Anna Heffel			
	Jen Huwalt				Tom Huwalt			
	Michelle Humann				Maureen James			
	Richard Jones				Kathy Johnston			
	Sr. Emmanuel Kattner, OSF   		Irene Kmieciak			
	Anne Kostas				Wendy Kraffky
	John Larkin				Baby Emma Lynde		
	Marie Mangano				Robert Manion			
	Mary Martin				Dennis McCabe			
	Mary Piszczor				Raymond Mitchell
	Fred Moss				Mary Sabel Oye
	Geri Pstrzoch				Baby Faith Reid			
	Robert Restivo				Vera Rossiano			
	Agnes Sabel				Patricia Sabel			
	Joaquina Scroppo			Joan Skimina			
	Linda Barone Simons			Jess Smith				
	Mary Spierowski		u		Joen Szypulski			
	Rachael Thompson			John Unger				
	Richard Vanni

If you or a family member would like to be included in our 
prayers, please call the rectory at 279-5700.  Also, please let 
us know when a name should be removed.

A Vocation View

Isaiah says:  "The earth shall be filled with knowledge of the 
Lord."  Who taught you knowledge of the Lord, and who are you 
teaching today?

Due to the Christmas Holy Days, all articles for the upcoming 
bulletins will have the following deadlines:
For Bulletin On                  Articles due by noon on :
      12/23                                      12/13
      12/30 & 1/6                            12/19
Thank you for your cooperation.  

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